Today on Facebook, I saw this picture: (caution, there are curse words)
Does anyone feel like this?
Sometimes when we set goals it feels necessary to share those goals with the people around us; co-workers, family, friends. I think we tell ourselves:
Self: "Telling people that I am working on losing weight will hold me more accountable"
People around you: "Oh another diet...cool."
Unfortunately, our willingness to work on changing our lifestyle is not always perceived as a lifestyle change, but sometimes perceived as a diet, or a work out kick.
Changing your lifestyle is hard!!! Friends, family and co-workers are awesome but they shouldn't hold the sole responsibility of holding you accountable for your lifestyle changes. Don't make a lunch choice because you fear the judgement of others based on your proclaimed goals, make a better lunch choice because it's a step in changing your lifestyle.
A lot of people think of a diet as this:
Obviously, agonizing over sprinkles is trivializing how difficult it is to make smart choices and figure out what a balanced diet means.
Last night Marty and I cut into this chocolate peanut butter filled egg I bought from Harry and David. It looked a little like this:
After eating some of it and storing the rest, I sat down to track my food. I saw that if I tracked the egg I would go over my calorie goal for the day because I hadn't exercised. Part of me really didn't want to track the food. I thought: no one cares that I ate some of that egg, it's not like I have any friends on MyFitnessPal, what does it matter?
I had to stop these thoughts, because to me it feels like I'm keeping secrets. Secret food is not good food, it's a behavior pattern that inhibits me from being transparent about my lifestyle and doesn't make me feel good.
I don't feel BAD for eating some of that chocolate egg. I did go over my calories. I did track my calories.
Secret food, or secret candy is not a good habit.
Friends, you still ate the calories. For me, candy is part of a balanced lifestyle, I really like sugar and have an insane sweet tooth. If I don't include sweets in my daily, yes daily eating, I will binge on sugar.
Today, I am encouraging you to live a lifestyle, not a lie. What are things that you need to include in your lifestyle that are unique to you, things that you can share with others without having to feel ashamed?
I like candy.
I will not exercise every single day.
Sometimes, I eat taco bell.
I don't hate myself for the food I eat.
I need to track my food to hold MYSELF accountable.
People who judge me based on what I eat are not people I want in my life.
I found this meme and really liked it:
Now don't take this to mean that cookies and sugar are what should make you feel better, but I think being balanced and feeling good about your choices, even if it's cookies or cake is okay.
Remember, you're trying to live a lifestyle, not a lie. No one is perfect.
Questions of the Day:
What are things that make your lifestyle unique?
Do you eat secret candy?
Do you share your goals with friends, family or co-workers?